The nice thing with queerness and identities becoming a little bit more socially acceptable the more time that goes on is that people nowadays are able to come out earlier and earlier in life. For those of us who grew up in a time where it was less socially acceptable a lot of us are now coming to terms with our queerness and identities and coming out later in life. My hope with this perspective is to share a little bit of my journey coming out later in life, in my mid-30s for sexuality and my late-30s for gender identity, and hopefully make other folx who have either come out later in life, or are trying to come out later in life, feel a little more validated in their experience.
Something that is so rarely (if not ever) talked about in the media or online, is how much our own journey in life with activism, environmentalism, veganism, or just about anything, is never going to be linear. Not only will it never look the same as anyone else’s or go at the same pace, it won’t always be moving up either.
It is with great thanks and appreciation that I come to write this piece for Start the Wave’s new pillar focusing on Spirituality. This opportunity arose out of a friendship with Dom P-C that started while we were on a Breathwave retreat together last year. It is an honour to be here and I am so grateful. Thank you.
I love creating.
I’m truly fascinated by the creative nature of human souls, and I find it does me good to think about how the choice of our actions influence the future. Dreaming up a New World is the only way I stay sane and hopeful in a place that sometimes feels so disconnected and filled with neglect.
When I speak about the idea of Everybody As Our Own, the response is often something like “Really! Everybody as our own? Do you know what is going on out there? The police are killing innocent people. There are Muslim bans, children in cages at the southern border, and riots at the capitol. We are afraid of each other. There is pure hate out there.”
I changed my name and came out to over 3,000 colleagues on this year’s Transgender Day of Visibility (31 March 2021). I started coming out to folks at work back in October 2020, but this was the first time I made a public statement and broad attempt to educate people at work and in my broader network about transgender issues…
The deeper I learn about the world I was born into, the more I feel the necessity of zooming into how my privilege informs my everyday.
Recognizing my biases, in every moment and every decision, with the insight I have available to me in each given moment.
A wise friend once said – “My privilege is a gift and I want to use it wisely”.
I couldn’t agree more.
We hear in the news the phrase “fix our broken immigration system,” and while the average American has no earthly idea what this means, millions of men, women and children live their lives in pins and needles hoping that maybe, just maybe, a new presidential administration will finally grant them an opportunity to someday, somehow, become a lawful United States citizen.
After successfully enrolling 95 black males on WKU’s campus, what do we do to retain and graduate them? Higher Education professional, Terrell Strayhorn wrote, “Black male undergraduates at PWIs tend to have less of a sense of belonging in college than their same-race male counterparts at HBCUs”. Often black males are first generational college students and have no clue how to navigate or “do” college.